Flirting Techniques That can Turn Him OFF
7. You try to buy a date.
I’ve been there when I was really desperate. I know how bad you have to be in order to think that the only attractive thing about you is the money you make. Buying dates doesn’t work. At best, you’ll have a sugar baby who will bail if you don’t pay them enough. At worst, you’ll look pathetic.
People who date you for cash will never love YOU — they will only love your money. It’s also an incredible money drain. (I ended up deciding to save my money, and just walked away from guys.)
8. You neg.
No, just don’t do it. Insulting people to “prime them” into dating you is horrible. It’s abusive. And frankly, the people who it works on aren’t the kind of people you want to be around.
If you want to ruin your reputation among decent people, by all means, neg away. Just don’t be surprised when you end up alone by using this bad flirting technique.
9. You are mean to others as a way to impress people.
You know how every single dating guide warns people away from men and women who are rude to waiters, taxi drivers, and others? Most people already know that to be a red flag. No one likes a bully except for other bullies.
10. You tell the person you’re trying to date that everyone of their gender is the same.
I actually use this tactic as a way to get guys who are allegedly interested in dating me to back off. It works surprisingly well. That should tell you volumes about it.
11. You insult them if things don’t go well.
Okay, this isn’t a flirting technique as much as it is a side effect of being a selfish jerk or a person with a lot of emotional problems. Yes, rejection hurts, but that doesn’t give you the right to allow your emotions to get the better of you.
We live in a polite (ish) society, and that means that you need to control yourself — unless you want to be known as a psycho.
12. You beg for a date.
I have been here too, and you know what? It’s horrible. Begging sucks away your dignity, and even if they agree to a pity date, nothing will ever come of it. This, in turn, makes a vicious cycle. The more you do it, the worse you feel, and the more you feel you’d have to do it to get action.
13. You try to convince someone to date you.
This is really just one step up from begging, but the problem is that you can’t negotiate attraction. When I had realized that nothing I would have said or done would have made a guy I was begging to want me, I just walked away. After all, I’d want someone who wants me, not someone who feels sorry for me or someone I had to “sell” on me.