Flirting Techniques You Should NEVER Use
Seriously, don’t be that person.
Back when I actually was in the dating scene, I had used (and seen) some pretty horrible, cringe-inducing, or even downright toxic moves. To a point, I’m beginning to think that bad flirting moves are a byproduct of a really sh*tty dating scene. Or, perhaps it’s because not everyone is socialized anymore.
Either way, I’ve seen a lot of them — and have sadly been guilty of some, too.
At times, the people who used these methods of getting someone to date them would actually work; however, it was never long-term. If you’re wondering why, it’s because the kind of behavior they used to flirt with others often led to toxic behavior later on. That being said, most of them never actually got anywhere with others.
If you’re currently single, you might be wondering what you’re doing wrong with others. The fact is that if you’re using these bad flirting techniques, you shouldn’t be surprised that you’re single…
1. You whine that you’re alone.
I have never seen this work, period. At best, the person won’t realize you’re basically begging them to date you. At worst, they’ll look at you and think you’re pathetic.
If you used this, there’s a good chance that you might have hangups on the dating scene that are bleeding through into your interactions, your social media, and more. Trust me when I say that I understand what that’s like, but if it’s this bad, you might want to take a page out of my book and just stop dating.
2. You talk about how others want to date you.
The only people this works with are narcissists and people with low self-esteem. These are people you should not want to date or even sleep with because they often come with consequences and strings attached. If anything, doing this just puts off healthy people from dating you, and that’s really not good for you.
3. You befriend someone for the sole reason of sleeping with them.
I’ve been that girl guys befriended for sex. It hurts. Like, it really hurts. The guys who befriended me with hopes of getting laid never did get what they want. However, they did leave me with a complex that took years for me to overcome.
So, as you can imagine, they lost a good friend, made friendships that much harder to believe in, and they also got a reputation for being creeps. Not good.
4. You go to a professional meeting in hopes of getting laid.
I’ve also been in this situation too. I had a guy who said he wanted a writer for his sports thing, only to meet with me later and ask to sleep with me. The “sports thing” all but disappeared. If you want to make a person feel invalidated, this is a great way to do it. Also, this is a good way to get slapped.
5. You intimidate a girl into being with you.
I’ve seen this in real life, and yes, police got involved. How anyone thinks it’s acceptable to bully someone into dating them is beyond me. No one who is bullied into a relationship will ever love their bully.
6. You hint that you should get something for spending money on a girl.
This is also known as “transactional dating” mode. Yes, you bought a girl a drink. No, she isn’t obligated to give you anything. The fact that you think this way says that you don’t really understand what dating is.
Dating is about getting a connection to a girl, not buying small trinkets in exchange for sex and/or a relationship. If you don’t care that she’s not into you, and do care that you spent money on her, maybe you shouldn’t bother paying money at all.