How To Be A Man In A Sea Of Boys

06.1.2017 - 7:13 AM Comments: 0

7. Maintain eye contact.
Don’t break a sweat doing your best not to blink and to stare into her eyes all night long… that would just be weird. But spending the evening staring at your shoes or the tablecloth is a great way to show your date that you haven’t quite mustered up the self-confidence to have an adult conversation with her.
I understand it can be nerve-wracking to get to know someone new, particularly in a one on one situation. But when your nerves begin to get to you, remember that she is out with you because she is interested in you as well. Good eye contact is important, particularly when listening to her. It lets her know you’re paying attention.

8. Be kind to everyone.
I have always said that a person who is not nice to the waiter, waitress, or bartender is not really a nice person. They can get everything right with how they treat you, but if they are rude to people they’re not trying to impress, this is a big red flag. A gentleman is not kind to others because of who they are, he is kind to others because of who he is.

9. Keep your cell phone away at all times.
Unless you are an on-call doctor or Barack Obama, your emails can wait.

10. Pay for dinner.
All of it. All of the bill. The whole thing. It’s not about the money, it’s about the gesture.

11. Open all of the doors for her.
All of them.

12. Understand who leads and who follows.
When being seated at a restaurant, allow her to go first and follow behind the host or hostess. When walking through a more crowded place, though, you lead and help clear the path for her. For an added bit of charm, casually extend your hand behind you for her to hold onto. If she takes it while following you, take this as a good sign.

13. When ordering, she goes first.
The ultra old-fashioned still sometimes prefer to find out what their date would like and then order it for her, but to be safe, your best bet is to simply have her order first when the waiter or waitress arrives.

14. When walking together, you walk closest to the street.
The purpose of this lost art is to show your willingness to be splashed instead of a woman should a passing car run through a puddle. Furthermore, in some countries, people would throw trash out of windows, and the person walking closer to the building was less likely to be hit. It’s an effortless way to show her that you care, and are willing to protect her.

15. Put your napkin in your lap.
It’s basic etiquette, you savage.

16. Do not have an “end goal” for the date.
If your intentions for the evening are to take this woman home at the end of the night or something of the sort, she will be able to see right through you the entire time. This is a great way to ensure never getting a second date with her.

It is important to understand that if you are out with the right woman, there is no goal or final objective to be pursued with her. Time with her is the goal. Sharing an evening with her is the objective. Your time together is the entire point, therefore there is no “end” to work towards because if you do things right, you will be seeing her again soon anyway.

17. Always gauge her comfort level and act accordingly.
Perhaps one of the more difficult but valuable things for men to do is to learn to read women, especially those who are tired of playing games. Picking up on non-verbal cues, body language, and subtle facial expressions can change the entire course of your evening. It will tell you if you should or shouldn’t go for the kiss, should or shouldn’t suggest you go somewhere else after dinner, should or shouldn’t invite her back to your place for a drink.

Non-verbal communication is a very important piece of the puzzle. You will have far better chances with a woman if you can see she is tired or not feeling well and go home, than if you were to just hang around and overstay your welcome.

Patience is an important tool in any gentleman’s arsenal. Never rush her, never make her feel pressured, and never force yourself on her in any way.

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